As he dug deeper into the causes of civilizational decline, J.D. Unwin in his 1934 study, Sex and Culture, discovered a man-woman dynamic. He found that abstinence before marriage and fidelity in marriage “was always dependent on the subjugation of women’s rights (e.g.; property rights, inheritance rights, etc). As the cultures grew …the awareness of the disadvantaged state of married women also grew. This compelled a demand for more rights for women, and with more rights there also came the demand for divorce and also increased levels of sexual promiscuity, and the ultimate decay of these cultures.”
“Social progress brings women to seek more rights and men to seek more sex.“
So social progress brings women to seek more rights and men to seek more sex. What is driving this? It is the desire of both men and women for greater love. In the fallen world, women seek it through economic independence and men seek it through free sex. Put bluntly, women trade their right to a faithful husband for property and position, and men trade their property and position for free sex. On these altars both sacrifice marriage and family life.
The fact is, true equality, justice and freedom to love do not result from social position and sexual promiscuity. They are from God. Once we bring God’s grace into marriage, all will enjoy wealth, authority and sexual love equally and far more abundantly that we ever have. As Jesus said, “Seek first the kingdom of God, and all these things will be given to you.”
“Our religions and pro-marriage organizations have not brought God’s grace into marriage.“
The kingdom begins with marriage, but our great religions and pro-marriage organizations have not brought God’s grace into marriage. So its disintegration continues. in 1960, 73% of children lived with two parents in their first marriage; by 2014, this declined to 46%. Single parent families moved from 9% to 26% in the same period, and “cohabiting families” went from zero to 7%. With due diligence we’ve lined up our laws to honor homosexuality and marginalize the natural family.
The cause of marriage breakdown, which destroys civilizations, is not a matter of women lacking rights or men lacking enough sexual partners, but of husbands’ and wives’ inability to embody God. It’s no one’s fault; it’s historical reality. To solve it is the purpose True Family Values.
(References: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce-and-infidelity/should-i-get-a-divorce/how-should-a-christian-view-marriage-and-divorce; https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/factchecker-divorce-rate-among-christians.)